As I m hitting my 30 in ten days, I am asking myself the questions that any woman would ask herself at this time of her life. What I have done in my life, where I stand, where I should go? What is the next step? Why I am still single without a family when in a way we were programmed in our deepest dreams to have a family at this time?
Which road to take: career, family, to enjoy my time take it easy or to be on a search mode?
Are we the 80’s lost generation of the “Moukadramin” (meaning in between 2 cultures in Arabic) that were raised with the values of a past century that does not apply anymore in the era of facebook, twitter and blackberry? Did we miss something on the way, taken by our education, career or are we just victims of fairy tales and of our own dreamy “checklist”? Are we lost in translation in the “new”seduction game where it is ok for a woman to ask for a first date, reveal her feelings and invite for dinner the one she likes?
The phenomena of girls in Middle East who are independent ( worked and studied abroad), fun, educated, smart, with an agenda always full of social and cultural events, surrounded with family and friends and still SINGLE is in raise, but there is still this deep feeling, need to build a family because the biological clock does not wait for an emancipated women…These girls are still attached to their social-religious background as they won’t live with a man under a same roof unless married, but what if they don’t find the perfect match??
In a society where a women does not leave her father’s house unless married, where you have a peer pressure indirectly as the wedding date looks like the peak of a girl’s life (you can tell from the festivities), where family and friends remind you that soon the train will leave the station to go to another generation, what are the options for these women?
To wait for fate? To come back to the traditional way of dating, when they thought at some point in their life that they were higher than this? To diminish their criteria, accept the less now that they are 30? Or to still say I believe in the charming prince and I want to fall in love to get married?
These questions are in fact universal and this phenomena is everywhere in the modern world, the only difference with the Western world ( US and West Europe) is that in the middle-eastern culture you still have people to remind you that it is an issue, is this wrong or right?
I invite you to surf in my world for 365 days, enjoy the ride !
